You have done all of the hard work and everything is ready for your wedding day, but the stress is not over. You keep thinking of all of the things that could go wrong and that’s OK. I am guilty of this one as well, I have nightmares not only about my wedding day but my client’s as well. There are a bunch of things that can go wrong, the difference is how you react to the situation. Here is my advice for managing a wedding day crisis.
Your Make-up/ Hair Dresser is Late. This one can be mostly prevented by scheduling your hair and make-up at least 30 minutes before your target time. At most of the weddings the bride and the bridesmaids are not ready on time as each girl needs at least an hour and a half to get ready, not an hour, and if you have only one makeup artist or a hairdresser for 4-5 bridesmaids, you are in trouble. Plan ahead of time and give yourself an extra room, this way if your glam team is running late or taking longer than expected, you are not stressing out. Look at it this way, if everything goes according to plan and everyone is one time, you will have extra time to snack and take pictures instead of running late.
Last Minute Cancellations: Honestly, these are the worst, but it is something that is out of your control. You should be mentally prepared for a text or a phone call on your wedding day from someone who can’t make it. Don’t get upset! I know it’s hard, but you can’t make a person show up to your wedding. If you are feelings hurt then you should discuss this privately with your guest AFTER your wedding day. There is no need to bring this up at the wedding with other guests.
Your Divorced Parents are not Getting Along. Ask your fiancé to talk to your parents. If you do it then you will get emotional and upset, and no one wants to see an angry/upset bride. For some reason when someone other than the bride expresses a concern or makes a comment to the parents, it is very effective. It’s your wedding day and you deserve enough respect for any of the issues that your parents might have with each other to be put to rest, at least for one day. Just please make sure not to sit these two together.
You are Missing Something. This is not the worst, but is very annoying. Provide your parents or maid of honor with the list of things to have on hand, this is also called an emergency kit. An emergency wedding day kit should include wet wipes, lotions, Pepto Bismo, Advil, breath fresheners, dental floss, bandaids, scissors, facial tissues, bobby pins, sanitary napkins, hair spray, clear nail polish, nail filer, deodorant, mini sewing kit, scotch tape, tide stick and a small snack. The best part about an emergency kit is that everything is travel size. If there is something that you still need, ask the venue, I am sure they have seen it all and will be able to provide whatever assistance you need.
You are Stressing about the Little Details. There are some brides who have a LOT of small wedding day details. If you are one of those brides and your venue has other weddings going on that same day, I suggest you pick your battles wisely and cut your “must do” list in half. The more small details you have, the greater the possibly that something will go wrong. What might seem like great idea at first, might actually end up being a total disaster. If you like something to be very particularly placed, stage it at your home and take a picture and provide the picture to your wedding day coordinator so they know exactly what you envisioned.
Crisis at the Ceremony. You forgot your vows, or your groom went totally blank on you. Things happen, laugh it off, make something up and keep going. I guarantee you, no one will even notice the hiccup, and if they do, everyone will laugh with you.
Know How to Recover. At the end of the day, anything can happen. It’s how you and your fiancé are going to handle the situation. If you laugh it off, everyone else will too. If something happens, oh well, there are certain things you cannot control. Your wedding day is about celebrating the love you and your fiancé share, so focus on that and you are guaranteed to have the most amazing wedding day celebration!